Complete the isc_nmhandle_detach() in the worker thread.
isc_nmhandle_detach() needs to complete in the same thread as shutdown_walk_cb() to avoid a race. Clear the caller's pointer then pass control to the worker if necessary.
WARNING: ThreadSanitizer: data race
Write of size 8 at 0x000000000001 by thread T1:
#0 isc_nmhandle_detach lib/isc/netmgr/netmgr.c:1258:15
#1 control_command bin/named/controlconf.c:388:3
#2 dispatch lib/isc/task.c:1152:7
#3 run lib/isc/task.c:1344:2
Previous read of size 8 at 0x000000000001 by thread T2:
#0 isc_nm_pauseread lib/isc/netmgr/netmgr.c:1449:33
#1 recv_data lib/isccc/ccmsg.c:109:2
#2 isc__nm_tcp_shutdown lib/isc/netmgr/tcp.c:1157:4
#3 shutdown_walk_cb lib/isc/netmgr/netmgr.c:1515:3
#4 uv_walk <null>
#5 process_queue lib/isc/netmgr/netmgr.c:659:4
#6 process_normal_queue lib/isc/netmgr/netmgr.c:582:10
#7 process_queues lib/isc/netmgr/netmgr.c:590:8
#8 async_cb lib/isc/netmgr/netmgr.c:548:2
#9 <null> <null>(cherry picked from commit f95ba8aa)
Closes #2209 (closed)